The 56 GB that wasn't there
The GPU VM on the Powerspec box runs a 27B model that keeps its experts resident in RAM, so I wanted more RAM for it. The host has 64 GB, the VM had 50, and I figured I had room to grow. I bumped the VM to 56 GB and the host OOM'd. Twice.
This is the story of why, and it's mostly a story about assumptions I didn't check.